When my boys were quite young and I was a new Christian, we would have conversations over dinner about how things would be when they were grown up. There were several areas to which my response would invariably be, "I don't know how we're going to do it yet, but we won't be doing it the way Mama and Papa did it when we were younger." And I would wonder silently to myself in follow up - how will we do it?
Dating was one of those areas, so understand we do not support the kind of dating for our children which we ourselves engaged in. That kind of dating leads down one of two roads - heartbreak or marriage - and we would rather that our children live out relationships with others with greater care and honor than we did at their ages.
Now the issue of the one they chose to marry was something else entirely. Of course they should all marry someone possessing particular qualities well suited to their character. And as the primary woman within our home, well attending to their individual person, they might do well to look for an example of some of these gifts in ... well, me.
I say this only partly tongue in cheek. If any of my sons should be reading this, I'd wager they would tell you there are only a few grains of jesting in this confession. They'd tell you there is more dogma than theory in what I have professed. But do they really know?
The following quote is quasi-reflective advice for my boys from a young lady I read online. And the best part is, she's a blogger.
(Oh, and since we've been blessed with our daughters: they, of course, should marry someone very like their Papa. I tell them so on a regular basis.)